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Don’t Believe the Hype (Men)

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In life we come across many categories of people. They can all serve one positive purpose or another, especially if we categorize them correctly. What might appear to be a negative relationship can have positive benefits and vice versa. It has a lot to do with awareness, consciousness and intentionality. Today we are exploring three groups of persons – the zombies, the rulers and the frantic fanatics.   There are those who are physically present but mentally absent – they really do not care about what you are doing, why you are doing it or how it...

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The Day After Today: Tomorrow

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Sometimes you have a bad day, a bad week or a bad month that feels like it is stretching on for eternity. It might appear that the sky is falling all around you and shelter, safety and stability are a distant memory. Sometimes it is a gradual process, it might be a situation where there is decay in your structure with bricks falling one by one and rising damp creeping up on you. Other times it may seem to all cave in at once, like a bad set that was poorly constructed. In whichever way...

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The Lonely Dreamer

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We all have dreams that keep us up at night and passions that drive us. There are things we do come naturally to us and bring us incomparable joy. It might be creating a painting from a blank canvas, putting words on a blank page, organising an event from an idea to execution, MC’ing an event, creating clothes from reams of fabric, solving a problem that exists through a business solution, giving presentations in power suits, etc. Whatever it is we must be sure to not only chase our passions, but also steel ourselves against...

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Time and Tide Wait for No (Wo)Man

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If you are like us you probably entered 2018 with fresh energy! This was going to be your most prosperous, most productive and most passionate year yet. You were going to live out loud, love unconditionally, seize moments, crush goals and simply enjoy your best life. You probably started the year adhering to a new fitness regime – eating clean and training dirty, drawing up the blueprints for your dream business while applying to the job you actually deserve and every other good intention in between. You probably started off your days with thanksgiving prayers,...

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The “S” Word

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You’re new at this aren’t you I can already tell You do it so grudgingly Yet you do it so well You embrace it Feeling it deep within yourself But then you’re apologetic Retreating into yourself   You don’t do it often You shy away from it too You try not to do it Saying ‘it’s just not "you"’ But you have to do it first You have to do it too You can’t always wait For others to do it to you   It’s impossible to do it too much Go crazy, let loose It’s not about anyone else You are doing it for you!   You look so uncomfortable When others do it to you But then I...

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Navigating Into the Unknown

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A few weeks ago I started learning a new route. I found my way to and from a place I had never been. Instead of driving out of my gate, turning left and then taking another left, I began to go straight down after the first left turn. I began to drive past new buildings, see new sights and sites, and have new encounters. Before it was pure highway, but now there’s a market, a filling station, a construction site and even a street with my friend’s mum’s name on it. While driving I had...

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The Sisterhood of Suits & Stilettos

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I once read an article that burned down the corporate ladder principle in favour of a jungle gym. It posited that the road to professional success was less about clearly defined rungs reaching up to the sky, as it was about bars moving both vertically and horizontally which you climb in your own unique design. Even in such a short time my definition of success has changed, evolved, and expanded to agree with this jungle gym theory. The longer we work the more we realize that our definitions of success are flexible and adaptable –...

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Once Upon a December Too

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"Bubbles lets have a fresh start. I'm going to come in a day early for the reunion. We really have a lot to talk about. And decide."   I shook my head to still the frantic butterflies and began to think back on how far we had come. Or rather, how far I had come since Anton. My mind went back to when we first met…   It was the summer of 2006 and I decided to do summer school instead of heading off to Europe with my friends. That was when I met him. Best and worst decision...

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The Passionate Pursuit of Purpose

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Tears cascaded down her heat-flushed face. She felt her throat constrict as her tummy did backflips. She tried to repeat the mantra over and over again, stuttering as she spoke softly to the silent room: “It doesn’t matter what they call me, it only matters what I answer to.” “No one can make me feel inferior without my consent” “I will not let the world tell me who I am.”   Yet all she could think about were her aunt’s parting words: “You will never amount to anything." "I wish I had never wasted my money on you." "What are you even doing...

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Square Dancin’ My Way to the Top

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I don’t remember what class it was, but somewhere during my pre-teen days we were taught to square dance. You must understand that my middle school class consisted of 26 students, with about 18 countries of origin between us all. We were a diverse and spirited young group, with teachers who introduced us to all sorts of off the wall things – including square dancing. I liked excitedly screaming out the “do-si-do” (pronounced 'dough-see-dough') part, but generally disliked square dancing.   Besides the fact that I abhor organized dance, I think I particularly disliked this one because...

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