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Alexa, Turn Off Autopilot

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Before a pilot sets out on a flight they plot the coordinates of their journey. They consider a number of factors including the weather, other flight conditions, estimated time of arrival, etc. They know where they are going and how they are going to get there. For most of the journey, given continued favourable weather conditions, pilots are able to press a single button and enter auto-pilot. This allows the vessel to fly itself essentially while they just supervise to ensure all systems are working appropriately. Take off and landing are a hands on affair...

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Don’t Believe the Hype (Men)

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In life we come across many categories of people. They can all serve one positive purpose or another, especially if we categorize them correctly. What might appear to be a negative relationship can have positive benefits and vice versa. It has a lot to do with awareness, consciousness and intentionality. Today we are exploring three groups of persons – the zombies, the rulers and the frantic fanatics.   There are those who are physically present but mentally absent – they really do not care about what you are doing, why you are doing it or how it...

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The Day After Today: Tomorrow

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Sometimes you have a bad day, a bad week or a bad month that feels like it is stretching on for eternity. It might appear that the sky is falling all around you and shelter, safety and stability are a distant memory. Sometimes it is a gradual process, it might be a situation where there is decay in your structure with bricks falling one by one and rising damp creeping up on you. Other times it may seem to all cave in at once, like a bad set that was poorly constructed. In whichever way...

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My Single Story (Part 1): Snowstorms and an Awareness of the Colour Black

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'I’m done with this town! I’m done with this school! I’m done with this toxic environment. I cannot stand the negativity or the racism.' This was my closing argument when I decided to transfer universities after two years in the middle of nowhere, USA. I was tired of people commenting on what “good English” I spoke, especially because “good English” is not proper English. Every time they said it the editor within me cringed a little more. I was tired of being reduced to a colour - black. I was also tired of them asking me...

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The Audition for a New Life

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Natasha was nervous. This was unusual for her. Her palms were sweaty, her make-up felt like it was caking and her armpits were prickly. She had given countless presentations to boardrooms full of corporate execs. She had commanded the room and convinced those of the worth of what she was saying. She could accredit her extreme career rise from intern to junior associate in record time to the fact that they bought into almost every pitch and presentation she made. The company recognized Natasha's talent, increasingly gave her more responsibility and as she succeeded and progressed...

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Chase Your Dreams

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Shout it from the mountain tops But whisper it in the congregation The purpose is not validation And popular opinion does not grant accreditation . Sing it to your soul in the early morn Feed it with dedication But hasten not to take out adverts It needs no orientation . Build the dream not the team Close your ears to the naysayers Tick the items off your list Open your heart to the prayers . You can achieve Even when it feels crowded The vision will become clear Even though initially shrouded . Don’t let distractions prevail Don’t pick up the heaviness Dig a little deeper within Soon you will strike success . Do what your heart tells you Build what...

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Teaching Women to Aspire to Marriage

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'Be strategic about your dreams Don’t just wake up and start doing anything You must dream with your future in mind You must consider everything How does a husband fit into this? And what about your kids? You must ask yourself these questions Before you begin to dream   You must dream responsibly You cannot simply do what you like Don’t undertake anything That will sabotage you becoming a wife   Are you sure you want to be a pilot? You will always be flying around How can you run the race? When your feet are never on the ground? Where will the man even see you When you’re always on the fly? And even...

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Patience My Dear: Your Bus is Coming

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It was 6:35 p.m. on Market Street in Manchester. I was sat at the bus stop waiting for the 62 that would drop me a quarter mile from Granny’s house. I had a lot of bags and very little patience. I had been out all day and just wanted to get home, have a bowl of rib and dumpling soup, and relax. The West Indies was playing India that evening and I had promised Grandad I would watch the cricket with him. I had things to do and the bus was already 7 minutes later...

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Square Dancin’ My Way to the Top

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I don’t remember what class it was, but somewhere during my pre-teen days we were taught to square dance. You must understand that my middle school class consisted of 26 students, with about 18 countries of origin between us all. We were a diverse and spirited young group, with teachers who introduced us to all sorts of off the wall things – including square dancing. I liked excitedly screaming out the “do-si-do” (pronounced 'dough-see-dough') part, but generally disliked square dancing.   Besides the fact that I abhor organized dance, I think I particularly disliked this one because...

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Where Dreams Go To Die

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There is a place where dreams go to die. It is located somewhere between procrastination, fear, and sheer laziness. The idea of starting this website was once as daunting as whatever dream you are battling with. Probably more so thanks to my overactive imagination and rather rigorous self-assessment. :| The good news is you’ve typed in the URL – www.HeelsAndHighStandards.com – and it worked. Therefore I can confidently say that 'daunting' is not 'damning' and can clearly be overcome! Are you on the brink of launching your designer label but you are yet to sketch...

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