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Don’t Believe the Hype (Men)

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In life we come across many categories of people. They can all serve one positive purpose or another, especially if we categorize them correctly. What might appear to be a negative relationship can have positive benefits and vice versa. It has a lot to do with awareness, consciousness and intentionality. Today we are exploring three groups of persons – the zombies, the rulers and the frantic fanatics.   There are those who are physically present but mentally absent – they really do not care about what you are doing, why you are doing it or how it...

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I’m Afraid You’re Doing It All Wrong

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Worry and fear are like two people in a toxic relationship. They live together, work together, thrive off one another and amplify each other’s weaknesses. When one is let in the other soon follows. When one seeks to wreak havoc, its counterpart embraces the challenge and follows suit. When one is lost on a destructive path, instead of trying to reverse the cycle one serves as a catalyst for the other – making the situation spiral even further out of control. When you entertain fear you beckon in worry; and vice versa. And when you...

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The Lonely Dreamer

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We all have dreams that keep us up at night and passions that drive us. There are things we do come naturally to us and bring us incomparable joy. It might be creating a painting from a blank canvas, putting words on a blank page, organising an event from an idea to execution, MC’ing an event, creating clothes from reams of fabric, solving a problem that exists through a business solution, giving presentations in power suits, etc. Whatever it is we must be sure to not only chase our passions, but also steel ourselves against...

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You Deserve Some Accolades

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When you go to an interview, regardless of the position or the organization there are some key questions you will be asked. These include – why should we pick you? What makes you the best candidate for the job? How will your past experiences add value to this role specifically and the organization generally? There is an understanding that you find yourself to be qualified, competent and well placed to deliver on the expected roles and responsibilities. Even when you think you might be lacking in practical experience, academic qualifications or technical ability, your duty...

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Time and Tide Wait for No (Wo)Man

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If you are like us you probably entered 2018 with fresh energy! This was going to be your most prosperous, most productive and most passionate year yet. You were going to live out loud, love unconditionally, seize moments, crush goals and simply enjoy your best life. You probably started the year adhering to a new fitness regime – eating clean and training dirty, drawing up the blueprints for your dream business while applying to the job you actually deserve and every other good intention in between. You probably started off your days with thanksgiving prayers,...

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The “S” Word

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You’re new at this aren’t you I can already tell You do it so grudgingly Yet you do it so well You embrace it Feeling it deep within yourself But then you’re apologetic Retreating into yourself   You don’t do it often You shy away from it too You try not to do it Saying ‘it’s just not "you"’ But you have to do it first You have to do it too You can’t always wait For others to do it to you   It’s impossible to do it too much Go crazy, let loose It’s not about anyone else You are doing it for you!   You look so uncomfortable When others do it to you But then I...

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Navigating Into the Unknown

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A few weeks ago I started learning a new route. I found my way to and from a place I had never been. Instead of driving out of my gate, turning left and then taking another left, I began to go straight down after the first left turn. I began to drive past new buildings, see new sights and sites, and have new encounters. Before it was pure highway, but now there’s a market, a filling station, a construction site and even a street with my friend’s mum’s name on it. While driving I had...

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I’m Writing to You from Here, Right Now

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I woke up this morning to 72 new messages. They were all emanating from the same mysterious WhatsApp source. I thanked God for the blessing and privilege of seeing a new day then I sluggishly reached for my phone. Silencing the first alarm of the morning and staring somewhat nervously at the notification I wondered ‘What on Earth could this be? Who was looking for me? Why?’ I hoped everything was okay and made a move to get to the bottom of the mystery. I unlocked my phone with my thumb and navigated towards WhatsApp. The...

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It’s Time To Tune In

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Give me a "Q" Give me a "U" Give me an "E" Give me another "E" Give me an "N" What does that spell? "QUEEN!" Did you spell it with enthusiasm? Did you spell it thinking of yourself as the object of the cheer or was there another woman that came to mind? *Kindly replace with "KING" for our male readers.   Are you your own greatest cheerleader? Are you lending a voice to the praises, the compliments, the positivity that swirls around you? After all if you have started to be careful little eyes what you see, be careful little feet where you go...

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Be Careful Little Legs Where You Go

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Have you ever noticed how over time you start using the same words and phrases as those you talk to the most? Have you ever found yourself mirroring the gestures of your closest colleagues and acquaintances? Or perhaps falling back on familiar logic or information to buttress your point during an argument? What about cooking food with the goal of making it look and taste just how a parent or guardian used to make it when you were growing up? Most likely. After all, it is very hard to be in a place and not...

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