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What Do You Have in Your Hands?

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People are successful for all sorts of reasons. They are wealthy for all sorts of reasons. Their claim to fame has come from so many different things. What do you have in your hands? What are you good at? What do you feel strong and energized when you do? What compliments do you receive? What criticisms do you receive? What are you passionate about? What resources are available to you? In what areas do you stand out? What sets you apart? What is the context in which you exist and how can it help you...

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Don’t Believe the Hype (Men)

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In life we come across many categories of people. They can all serve one positive purpose or another, especially if we categorize them correctly. What might appear to be a negative relationship can have positive benefits and vice versa. It has a lot to do with awareness, consciousness and intentionality. Today we are exploring three groups of persons – the zombies, the rulers and the frantic fanatics.   There are those who are physically present but mentally absent – they really do not care about what you are doing, why you are doing it or how it...

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I’m Writing to You from Here, Right Now

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I woke up this morning to 72 new messages. They were all emanating from the same mysterious WhatsApp source. I thanked God for the blessing and privilege of seeing a new day then I sluggishly reached for my phone. Silencing the first alarm of the morning and staring somewhat nervously at the notification I wondered ‘What on Earth could this be? Who was looking for me? Why?’ I hoped everything was okay and made a move to get to the bottom of the mystery. I unlocked my phone with my thumb and navigated towards WhatsApp. The...

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Every Little Thing Is Gonna Be Alright

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  ‘If it is not going to matter in 5 years do not worry about it for more than 5 minutes.’   I came across this phrase about 29 months ago and fell in love. In the past I had a tendency to worry about things. I define worry as ‘obsessing over a particular situation and considering for an immense amount of time possible outcomes (mostly negative) and how they might affect one. This activity is accompanied by inaction and other symptoms: tense shoulders, tight jaw, getting lost in one’s thoughts, and an inability to live in the present...

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A Desert in the Oasis (Part I)

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Once upon a time there lived a young lady who was a nomad. Her name was Jasmine and today was her birthday. It was more significant than any other birthday because Jasmine had reached the “age of maturity” and therefore certain protocols had to be observed. Today was the day she prepared to separate from her entire family. Based on their nomadic culture Jasmine was required to become fully independent no later than two moons after this particular birthday. Over the course of her lifetime her family had relocated every five years, this fifth move...

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A New Year Mantra

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You are barely a week old You have so much more to grow So much further to go So much more to show You can still rise up fearless Still stand tall and bold . . You are barely a week old And I already know That you will be beautiful You will be strong You will do a lot right And maybe a few things wrong . . And this is okay too For every day is new It is a chance to prove That it is not about the battles you lose . . For even after a loss You are still uniquely you . . It is about standing tall And giving it your all About rising up After every fall . . It...

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Once Upon a December’s End (Part 3 of 3)

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As I descended from the plane my tummy tightened. His butterflies were on speed; weaving and bobbing all in my belly. Anton had asked me to send my flight schedule and even though it had been 7 years I knew him well enough to know he would want to be involved in my arrival somehow. He liked to control situations and create moments. It was one of the things I first loved and later hated about him. As I got my travel case from baggage claim, I laughed as I heard Michael’s voice teasing me...

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The F Word

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Event after event Opportunities after another And so the story went From one decision to another   I wish the knocking would stop Every time I get up I wish the confidence remained Then I would be willing to try again   But I find the curious case Of when I set about a new endeavor The knocking gets louder Once I move outside the known perimeter   Then my temperature rises As I leave my comfort zone It's so uncomfortable I'd much rather be left alone   The application lay before me I entered the first few fields But then began to calculate The odds and the yield I heard my other colleagues say The application was competitive Those planning...

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Date a Boy Who Is Not Afraid to Fail

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Date a boy who is not afraid to fail because you know that he will be resilient. As the definition implies he will be ‘able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.’ He will be able to ‘spring back into shape after being bent, stretched, or compressed.' Life has a way of bending, stretching and compressing us, so if you’re thinking of dating someone you might want to date a boy who is not afraid to fail. If you date a boy who is not afraid to fail you will have the assurance that when he...

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