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What Do You Have in Your Hands?

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People are successful for all sorts of reasons. They are wealthy for all sorts of reasons. Their claim to fame has come from so many different things. What do you have in your hands? What are you good at? What do you feel strong and energized when you do? What compliments do you receive? What criticisms do you receive? What are you passionate about? What resources are available to you? In what areas do you stand out? What sets you apart? What is the context in which you exist and how can it help you...

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My Single Story (Part 1): Snowstorms and an Awareness of the Colour Black

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'I’m done with this town! I’m done with this school! I’m done with this toxic environment. I cannot stand the negativity or the racism.' This was my closing argument when I decided to transfer universities after two years in the middle of nowhere, USA. I was tired of people commenting on what “good English” I spoke, especially because “good English” is not proper English. Every time they said it the editor within me cringed a little more. I was tired of being reduced to a colour - black. I was also tired of them asking me...

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Relationship Status: It’s Complicated

Sometimes we complicate our own relationships before they have even begun. Sometimes we complicate our lives after the relationships have ended. Had a water cooler conversation with a friend and colleague yesterday about how we tend to predict the outcome from the first encounter. We deduced that this is wrong. So is panicking in the early stages and worrying about heartbreak, incompatibility, etc. before it arrives. Not every time high fences and higher defenses, sometimes we should just open ourselves up the possibility of what might be. Let things evolve organically. As some of us can...

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Beautiful, Strip Away the Labels

Y O U .  A R E  .  N O T  .  P  R E T T Y You are not tall You are not ugly You are not small - You are not white You are not black You are not slow You are not 'fast' - You are not loose You are not uptight You are not out of mind Nor are you out of sight - You are not skinny You are not fat…or phat…or fatt You are not sexy You are not 'all that' - You are not the sh*t You are not a b*tch You are not a stepping-stone A building block A some-thing to own - You are not classy Nor are you last season You are...

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