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Looking Forward to Looking Back

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Do you remember when you thought you might never breathe properly again? That it would always hurt? That you would always know exactly where your heart was located because of that incessant pain in your chest, lump in your throat and nausea in the pit of your stomach? Do you remember when you thought that life could not possibly go on? Heartbreak hurts. Whether it occurs in the form of the loss of a relationship, the loss of a person or the loss of something else one holds dear – it hurts. Initially it consumes...

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The “S” Word

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You’re new at this aren’t you I can already tell You do it so grudgingly Yet you do it so well You embrace it Feeling it deep within yourself But then you’re apologetic Retreating into yourself   You don’t do it often You shy away from it too You try not to do it Saying ‘it’s just not "you"’ But you have to do it first You have to do it too You can’t always wait For others to do it to you   It’s impossible to do it too much Go crazy, let loose It’s not about anyone else You are doing it for you!   You look so uncomfortable When others do it to you But then I...

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Mind the Gap (between) Life & Death

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A heart-wrenching scream escaped from her lips as she crumbled to the floor. She could not tell if her legs had given way or if she had landed there on purpose. Her phone, the culprit, lay discarded beside her, screen cracked and a flickering ominous blue light in place of her screensaver. She did not care. She pushed it under the edge of the black velvet couch and held her heavy head in her feeble hands. He was dead. He was gone. Someone, she could not even remember who, had just called to confirm. She had...

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When Death Stole The Sun

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  I thought I was numb I thought I was strong I thought it didn’t matter What was done   Death was the new norm People died Death was part of life As certain as the tide   But then death took The One Then death took The Sun Then death took Him Who was Second To None   He told me: “Many are the pains of a man’s heart but God’s will be done” He was the Sun   He told me: “If the price I have to pay to smile is a little sadness then it’s not so much to pay right?” He was the Sun   He told me: “Anyone with a good understanding of who God...

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Teaching Women to Aspire to Marriage

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'Be strategic about your dreams Don’t just wake up and start doing anything You must dream with your future in mind You must consider everything How does a husband fit into this? And what about your kids? You must ask yourself these questions Before you begin to dream   You must dream responsibly You cannot simply do what you like Don’t undertake anything That will sabotage you becoming a wife   Are you sure you want to be a pilot? You will always be flying around How can you run the race? When your feet are never on the ground? Where will the man even see you When you’re always on the fly? And even...

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Relationship Status: It’s Complicated

Sometimes we complicate our own relationships before they have even begun. Sometimes we complicate our lives after the relationships have ended. Had a water cooler conversation with a friend and colleague yesterday about how we tend to predict the outcome from the first encounter. We deduced that this is wrong. So is panicking in the early stages and worrying about heartbreak, incompatibility, etc. before it arrives. Not every time high fences and higher defenses, sometimes we should just open ourselves up the possibility of what might be. Let things evolve organically. As some of us can...

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Date a Boy Who Is Not Afraid to Fail

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Date a boy who is not afraid to fail because you know that he will be resilient. As the definition implies he will be ‘able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.’ He will be able to ‘spring back into shape after being bent, stretched, or compressed.' Life has a way of bending, stretching and compressing us, so if you’re thinking of dating someone you might want to date a boy who is not afraid to fail. If you date a boy who is not afraid to fail you will have the assurance that when he...

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Affairs of the Heart

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  Sometimes it is forbidden You are not allowed to touch You are not allowed to taste You are not allowed to say Sometimes it is forbidden You are not allowed to hope You are not allowed to dream You are not allowed to ‘feen’ Sometimes you find love In a place with no space And you must rely on grace Or choose to suffocate Sometimes the person who you see as your 'other half' Is already whole And it does not matter how tightly your goals – align How your minds seem to – intertwine How you suddenly feel – defined Why? Because space and time betrayed you With the passage of time Probably at...

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