Sometimes you have a bad day, a bad week or a bad month that feels like it is stretching on for eternity. It might appear that the sky is falling all around you and shelter, safety and stability are a distant memory. Sometimes it is a gradual process, it might be a situation where there is decay in your structure with bricks falling one by one and rising damp creeping up on you. Other times it may seem to all cave in at once, like a bad set that was poorly constructed. In whichever way your sky falls, standing under a falling sky is hard and it is heavy. I’m sorry if this is your current reality. If it feels like the sky is falling down on you and your plans and dreams are too aspirational to even keep in view, remember – this too shall come to pass. One way or another. You may not be able to determine when it will come to pass, but to an extent you can surely determine how.
Most people commence every new beginning – whether it be a day, a month, a season, a year, a new location or a new occupation, with certain expectations. Those expectations are usually good. These expectations involve measures of good fortune, they usually also involve time and effort that must be sown which is supposed to yield a bountiful harvest. Sometimes things do not go as planned. And when our plans are drastically derailed we can unknowingly switch from thriving mode to survival mode. All the positive mantras, the deep devotionals, the ‘do something your future self will thank you for tomorrow,’ and the palpable excitement that serves as cement for a brighter future all fly out of the window. We are left with bare walls where vision boards used to be and frustration where there was a flurry of plans and activities to build our best life.
The hardest thing about these turbulent days is that they are usually out of our control. It could be spurred by an unexpected sickness, a sudden loss of income or employment, the tragic departure of a loved one, or something else that shakes one’s stability. It is certainly often something that we did not see coming over the horizon. This is a part of life – confronting the unexpected. However, just because you may have found yourself in a situation you did not budget for does not mean your life will not be beautiful, your dreams are now futile or you are not as upward bound as you initially thought you were. It just means life has happened in a less palatable form and you’ve got to deal with it and move in.
Take heart dear one, troubles surely come. Remember this too shall pass. No matter how long storms last, eventually they soften the hard ground and create fertile soil for fresh planting. Eventually the storm clouds break and the rainbow peaks across the greying skies. Eventually the sun rises and scatters the overcast sky. Eventually the hailstones melt, the ground dries, the seas calm and better weather comes. Eventually this too comes to pass.
You may not have expected the storm, but you are indeed equipped for it. Sometimes strength and resilience are only accessible in the moment. Grace arrives on the day. Sufficiency surrounds you in the midst of your circumstances. Yes, you may have never expected to endure certain things, but the truth is there is another side and if you keep on keeping on you will come out of it. It may take a while to remember who you are, remember what your dreams are, remember what your expectations for the future are, but I urge you to remember. Clear your mind of the chaos and look deeper, look inwards, look upwards and think upon those good plans to give you a hope and a future and focus your energy on getting back to that point.
What did the future look like in the past? Is there any real tangible irrefutable reason why you cannot still get there? The good thing about the future is it does not live in the present. So no matter what the present holds that is disheartening, discouraging or weighing you down, it does not live in the future. If it is debt, you can overcome it. If it is heartbreak, your muscle (heart) will find the strength to love again. If it is betrayal, your heart can be healthily guarded and grow and learn where to place its trust in the future. If it is unemployment – opportunities will come. If it is confusion – clarity will arise. For every challenge there are solutions and they can and will come to you as you remember who you are and all you are capable of overcoming and becoming.
If you knew that (a better, brighter and more beautiful) tomorrow was coming you would not mourn today. No matter how sad, how bad, how disappointing it ended up being you would keep a smile, a strength and a future focus because you would know your best days were ahead of you. They are ahead of you. They are ahead of you. They are indeed ahead of you. Do not get stuck in today. Do not get discouraged by disappointments. Put one foot in front of another, dig deep(er) to find the strength to carry the items and characteristics you will want to have with you when you get there. Give the time and energy to the relationships that will be sorely missed if they break now. Love on yourself the hardest because if you do not stay loving, loved and loveable you will be in no shape to embrace those best days when they take shape and take place. And always remember your skies will never remain overcast, this too shall come to pass.