When you go to an interview, regardless of the position or the organization there are some key questions you will be asked. These include – why should we pick you? What makes you the best candidate for the job? How will your past experiences add value to this role specifically and the organization generally? There is an understanding that you find yourself to be qualified, competent and well placed to deliver on the expected roles and responsibilities. Even when you think you might be lacking in practical experience, academic qualifications or technical ability, your duty is to persuade the panel that the combination of who you are is enough to thrive in said role.
In this role of lead actor in the life you are living, you need to also recognize that the combination of who you are is enough to thrive in said role. It is important to first be able to assess your strengths and weaknesses and then to confidently compliment and sell yourself. If you do not believe in you, no one else has to, and very few will be convinced or compelled to. The onus of responsibility lies with you. You must first believe, take stock, clap for yourself and see the best for others to buy into it and for you to be in the right state of mind and fueled by the right energy to achieve all your heart’s desires.
When an applicant is unable to explain why they are right for the position the panel will not make excuses or allowances for them. They will critically assess the person based on the criteria they are looking for and compare the applicant to others they interview. If a person does not successfully sell himself or herself, they are unlikely to receive an employment offer. Similarly, when one has not taken stock of the positive contributions they have made and the important skills they possess they are unlikely to be able to convey this to others.
The same is true with regards to believing you qualify for the life you aspire to. Sometimes individuals who lack qualifications make up for it in confidence and leaps of faith, and find themselves learning on the job, growing out of their previous comfort zones and gaining additional competencies and qualifications in the execution of their duties. Similarly your dreams and visions may be bigger than your current self, but failing to acknowledge progress, speak to the seeds of potential and encourage yourself to be bold enough to take necessary risks and seize opportunities could leave you negotiating against yourself. It could leave you disqualifying yourself from being able to attain your dreams and goals.
Another benefit of self belief, self assurance and affirming one’s self worth is it inadvertently affects others’ perception. Why do others matter? Well, others matter because no one exists in a silo. We interact with one another in person and online across various platforms all the time. You never know when a chance encounter could lead to a business opportunity, access to vital information or an inspiring moment. Therefore it is important to be in a positive ‘can do’ mindset. One of the best ways to get there is to focus on what you have already done and acknowledge the good aspects of your journey so far. Also, knowing and declaring the success story that you are and knowing how and why your experiences have enriched who you are today allows you to maintain a positive self image and to project confidence.
This is all to say – never be shy to clap for yourself. You are the only one who truly knows all you have achieved, sacrificed, experienced and accomplished. There is absolutely nothing wrong with celebrating yourself. I am not suggesting you put up a billboard on the busiest highway or send yourself a congratulatory message in the newspaper – unless you really, really want to. I am suggesting though that you give yourself a pat on the back, give yourself a round of applause and acknowledge that you deserve some accolades, because quite frankly you do.
You may be at a point in your life where you have not achieved everything you have scheduled for this season, however you are not devoid of accomplishments. Neither are you devoid of aspirations. Both deserve some credit. There are things you have dealt with, gone through, overcome, succeeded at and conquered and they deserve some acknowledgement. When you focus on what has not worked or materialized you put yourself in a negative space that continues to perpetuate that negativity. Conversely, when you count your achievements and strengths you gear yourself up to achieve more and grow in areas where you are showing potential and recording success.
Take stock of what you have done – with a special focus on what you have done well. It is part of the fuel needed to take you to where you are going. Take a moment to catch your breath, celebrate your success and generally de-stress. Then you will be armed with a correct vision of how great, strong, powerful, intelligent, resilient, focused and ready you are to unlock the next episode and achieve the next level of success. You deserve some accolades. Step away and clap for yourself. Do not wait for any one else to do it. After all, rooms that erupt in applause always have one individual who started it first. Be that present, powerful, positive person.